4 Things To Do When You Want To Feel Closer To Your Partner
1. Listen to your own desires
As you get upset by your partner’s behavior, ask yourself the reason why and what do you really want and need. It’s not as easy as you may think, especially if introspection is not your friend or if you tend to lie to yourself.
2. Never be ashamed of your need to connect
Since it puts us in a vulnerable position, we have a tendency to hide or deny our need to connect. But actually, it’s not a weakness, it’s a strength. Studies show that a long and healthy relationship is more beneficial to our well-being than not smoking or not being obese.
3. Learn how to ask
Confront your fear of asking and do it in a positive, non-condemning or non-entitled way. If your partner loves you, they will be pleased to make you feel loved. If they don’t, at least you’ll know where you stand.
4. Ask your partner to help you grow
Good habits are hard to keep, so you will probably complain in the future instead of finding a way to connect that is on the same page as your partner’s way. So be brave enough to talk this with your partner and ask him to help you resist the temptation to complain or to withdraw. After all, you’re trying to build something great that will be mutually beneficial.
