7 Things That Are More Harmful Than Cheating
There’s no denying that cheating on a partner is likely a painful experience for everyone involved and could very well be the end of a lot of relationships, but the hard truth is there are other things that are more harmful than cheating. Those things can be more damaging to your relationship and to your individual self. Some of the things that can lead to a breakup (that aren’t cheating) could start out small and indiscernible, which is part of what can make them so dangerous — you or your partner may not even realize you’re doing them.
1. Lack of communication.
This doesn’t mean not texting all day every day, but failing to talk to each other about things that bother you when they come up, or conveniently leaving out details that you think might cause problems. All that shit just gets bottled up or revealed eventually, and by the time that happens, it’s usually unmanageable
2. Manipulation.
This one is complicated because it can be so subtle that you don’t realize you’re being manipulated by your partner (or you’re being the manipulator) until it’s way too late. Manipulation causes a person to gradually lose their self-esteem, which in itself is a crime against a romantic partner.
3. Any sort of physical harm.
Fighting or abuse between partners is never okay, by any means.
4. Lying to and hiding things from your partner.
The act of lying to a romantic partner is often the worst signal of a dying relationship. Lying is not something impulsive and uncontrollable – it is a habit which, in time, becomes part of who you are. Should you find your partner lying to you about little things, be wary. Ask him or her to elaborate on the reasons why they chose to lie to you.
5. With holding any kind of affection.
Whether to you, affection means pouring your heart out, asking intense questions about deeply meaningful things, or helping each other through difficult times, being unaffectionate can cause the kind of doubts in a relationship that in the end become unfixable.
6. Harboring quiet resentment.
There is nothing more toxic than keeping unaddressed anger inside you. Holding on to silent resentment instead of sorting things out with your partner is like drinking poison.
What’s worse is that anger slowly rises inside you until one day you become incapable of keeping it bottled up. And that is when all hell breaks loose.
7. Presenting a false version of yourself at the beginning.
This can be as simple and small as pretending to like horror movies when you actually hate them, or as big as saying you’re not looking for anything serious when, in fact, you are. It’s best to be upfront from the get to, because those little things can become huge reasons to breakup over time.
Source:dazzling.new, cosmopolitan.com
