8 Signs You’re Being usєd For Money In Your Relationship
1. Your partner pays for the first few dates, then expects you to pay for the next 30.
Apparently, this is a sneaky technique they like to use to make you feel guilty about paying for future dates. And the worst part is that the next few appointments get more and more expensive than the first ones they paid for!
2. You often give your partner money and lend them things without getting them back.
If your partner is always broke and relies heavily on you to fill in their financial gaps, this can be a clear sign. You need to protect yourself, your money and your emotions.
2. Your partner has a sad story that only money can solve.
This can turn into a pattern where he will always ask you for money, and the story behind it will be so heartbreaking that you will give in. But the worst part is that when you ask about the surgery or anything else you financed, your partner doesn’t seem to know what you’re talking about, or they always have a good story to change the subject.
3. Your arguments start and end with money.
Your partner throws a fit when you refuse to pay for something. There seems to be nothing that can calm him down except what he wants you to pay. Over time, you’ll notice that the quick fix to your arguments is an expensive piece of jewelry, a gadget or a down payment on a car. Oops!
4. Your partner is too proud of your possessions.
Instead of being proud of your accomplishments and qualities, he or she highlights the fact that you have a fancy car, live in an affluent part of town, or make a six-figure monthly salary!
5. The user has expensive tastes.
When you go to a restaurant, they always expect you to pay. And when your dates are always at five-star hotels, gourmet restaurants, and trips to exotic locations, it starts to get disturbing.
6. There are plenty of excuses for why you can’t get a job.
Your partner is not motivated to earn money. He gives you every excuse as to why he’s broke this month: the economy, his old boss was a jerk, or he’s waiting for a check. It sounds like you’re feeding, clothing and housing someone who just wants to bask in your wealth. The dependence on your paycheck may be more than you can handle!
7. He expects you to pay for everything without batting an eye.
If your partner still expects you to pay the rent or buy the necessities for your apartment without EVER offering to chip in, question his motives. If your partner is really struggling with his own financial problems, it is difficult for him to contribute equally to the relationship in this capacity.
On the other hand, if he or she feels overwhelmed by his or her situation and inability to participate in shopping, you will know. Your partner will show his appreciation, gratitude, and love in a way that makes it clear he is not using you for your money.
8. Pure intuition.
If you feel like your partner is using you for your money, you are probably right! Trust your inner feelings and communicate exactly how you feel and what you need. You should never feel an ounce of doubt, and you definitely don’t want to be taken advantage of.
