Only Couples That Stay Madly In Love Do These Things Together
1. They have meaningful conversations.
Couples who stay together take time to conversate stay together. And I don’t mean small talk or little conversations here and there. I mean couples who talk with each other about everything.
2. They fight productively.
Fighting doesn’t always mean the relationship is not good. That couldn’t be further from the truth. The difference is in how you fight. If you fight with contempt, then yes, it is likely the relationship is doomed. But, if you fight with the goal of overcoming the obstacles in front of you, then it’s likely the relationship will stand the test of time.
3. They stow their ego to the side to resolve conflicts.
Remember that in a long-lasting relationship, you cannot have two egos constantly mashing up against one another. Instead, you must be able to both stow away your egos and work to do things for the relationship, not just your individual selves. This can be really hard for most people at first, but as you learn about each other and work with yourselves on this, it can be learned.
4. They share the same values.
Yes, it’s nice to have things in common in other ways, but it’s so much more important to have shared core values, so you can make a future together that works.
5. They stow away petty jealousy and obsession.
Couples that are constantly jealous and obsessed over their partner don’t typically last. If they do, it’s a total nightmare, so who wants that?
6. They show appreciation.
Your partner should know how much you appreciate them. However, you both have to show one another that you appreciate them. You can do this through acts of love, or you can literally tell them and communicate to them how you appreciate them.
7. They stoke the fire.
There’s a spark that comes without much effort at the beginning of a relationship. But as time goes on, the spark does begin to fade. That’s when it becomes our job to continue to keep that fire stoked. And in order to do that, you have to go out of your way to keep the fire alive. Regular dates, cuddling, deep talks, and sex can do a lot of good in this area.
8. They adapt to change.
The world is always changing so things are going to change outside of your relationship. Couples that learn to adapt will inevitably stand against those odds and find a way to overcome those changes and stay together.
9. They keep their personal relationship drama to themselves.
When you two inevitably encounter major problems, you might be tempted to vent to your family members or friends. And while it’s perfectly fine to vent about things from time, you don’t want to invite everyone you know into your personal problems. The foremost reason for this is that your mom or brother may not forgive your partner, while eventually you likely will. Which can add even more pressure on your relationship and its problems.
10. Intimacy goes beyond just the physical.
Intimacy is not just pleasure. Find ways to bare your soul to your partner. Make out with them, snuggle with them, tell them about your secrets and make a real effort to be truly intimate with them.
