We all have a past and many skeletons in our closet, but when we choose to be with someone, it’s a way to move on and let go of the past.
We want to have a beautiful life with someone in the current moment. However, many people have a habit of digging into their partner’s past which can have a damaging effect on your relationship.
It can be a troubled past for you or your partner. There are several reasons why you shouldn’t go back in time, no matter how curious you are. Scroll down to know why.
1. Trust issues
Past digs can harm the pillar of trust. If your partner shares personal information with you and you use it against them or bring it up in arguments, it can damage the trust in your relationship.
2. Insecurity & jealousy
Knowing about your partner’s past relationships or experiences can lead to jealousy or insecurity, even if they are not currently related to your relationship. Some people start comparing the things their partner did for someone from their past. This can get very toxic. You may even end up keeping unrealistic expectations from your partner.
3. Unnecessary tension
Bringing up your partner’s past can result in tension in the relationship, especially if it’s a sensitive topic or if you don’t agree with their choices. There may be small fights and it can ugly as well. So why dig the past?
4. Hurt feelings
In the past Your partner may have made mistakes or had negative experiences that they don’t want to revisit or discuss. Bringing them up can cause hurt feelings and resentment. Digging the past can also be mentally harassing especially if it was a sensitive issue.
5. It is unfair
Your partner may not want to share certain aspects of their past with you, and you should respect their privacy and boundaries.
