Six Simple Ways To Apologize To Your Partner
1. Not waiting too long to apologize
Apologizing as soon as possible is the best way. Saying you are sorry an hour after the offense is very different from a week after it. The longer you wait, the more the seed of hatred is likely to grow in your spouse or partner which might lead to unforgiveness because by waiting too long to apologize, your partner has a long time to think about what you said and whether they even want to forgive you.
2. Show sincerity
Whether you have a clash, conflict, or fight with your partner, it’s necessary for you to show your partner that you will not make the same mistakes again. Most people understand when you make a mistake once, but their understanding evaporates if you repeat it. Rather than throwing your relationship away because you can’t learn to change, you can show through your words and actions that you are honestly working to change, and your partner will see that sincerity.
3. Never shift the blame
Do not blame your spouse for your behavior. An adult can accept that they have played a role in the problem or made a huge mistake. Your feelings and actions are your reactions. They represent your self-control and discipline. No one makes you angry. You choose to respond in anger.
4. Reduce your expectations.
Sometimes, people get furious when their apology isn’t accepted right away by their partner. You cannot control how your partner responds, so you should get rid of all of your expectations. If your spouse wants some space or needs to wait to forgive you, listen to them. They may even get angry when you show up to apologize.
5. Be mindful of your words
Do not make this mistake. Never say something in anger that you will want to take back later. If you call your partner a name or say something mean to them, he or she will remember it later. Don’t take your partner’s forgiveness for granted. They are under no obligation to forgive you if you have done something unforgivable.
6. Do not bring past arguments
It’s important to stay focused on the present. Bringing up a past argument or your partner’s mistakes will only start a new argument between you two. Let the past remain in the past.
