A wedding day is very important not only for the two people who are being wed, but also for all the couple’s friends and relatives. First of all, the parents of both spouses hope that their children have a wonderful future together. Not to mention that mothers and fathers get to partake in walking their child down the aisle.
But this is a story about a father whose daughter denied him the honor of this traditional duty.
This story was posted to Reddit by a 48-year-old man who is the father of a 19-year-old daughter who was to be wed.
Read on to find out more:
“I’m a 48-year-old man and my 19-year-old daughter has always been an independent thinker. I raised her to be independent and think for herself, which I’ve always appreciated. However, we recently hit a bit of a snag.
She got engaged and decided that she doesn’t want me to walk her down the aisle at her wedding. She argues that her mother and I don’t “own” her, therefore we have no right to “give her away”. I feel hurt by this because we never treated her like an object or piece of property, rather we’ve tried our best to provide her with a wonderful life.
Her stance seems extreme to me and despite discussions, she’s refusing to budge on the issue. I respect her choices, but I feel she’s disregarding our feelings completely. As a response, I told her that if she feels that way, then I won’t be paying for her wedding.
I don’t want to come across as controlling or manipulative. It’s true, I don’t “own” her, I also don’t owe her a fully-funded wedding. She can pay for her own wedding if she’s insistent on this stance.
I’m feeling quite conflicted about this. AITA?”