If you confront your partner with chᴇᴀting allegations and they say these five phrases, they are chᴇᴀting or chᴇᴀted on you.
1. “How can you not trust me?”
When you ask your partner about their whereabouts or address the concerning text messages you came across on their phone, they might retaliate by accusing you of lacking trust in them. This tactic aims to shift the blame onto you, suggesting that you are overly suspicious or trivial for bringing up the possibility of ɪɴғɪᴅᴇʟɪᴛʏ.
This is another strategy for your partner to avoid guilt if ɪɴғɪᴅᴇʟɪᴛʏ occurs, and there’s nothing wrong with an open conversation.
2. “It doesn’t mean anything”
If you found out that your partner has been meeting up with a female coworker after work, and you questioned him why he didn’t tell you about it. He might brush off your feelings by saying it doesn’t mean anything. Well, if he doesn’t mean anything, why did he keep it a secret?
3. “You made me ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛ”
Your partner may be eager to point the finger at someone else and not take responsibility.They may blame you entirely, alleging that you are distant or never express affection. This is frequently done to divert attention from ᴀᴅᴜʟᴛᴇʀʏ and toward your failings, so it becomes your fault.
Alternatively, your partner may honestly believe that the distance in your relationship has left him or her susceptible to ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ. If you hear this common answer, keep in mind that your partner made a deliberate decision to ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛ, which was not your responsibility.
4. “I love you; I don’t love him or her”
This shows your partner admits to ɪɴғɪᴅᴇʟɪᴛʏ. They might try to console you by saying they had no feelings for the person they had an ᴀғғᴀɪʀ with. Well, it might be true; they should always acknowledge that they broke your trust. Also, having a s3xual attraction for someone is still some sort of feeling.
5. “And what about you when you…”
Your partner might mention some past incidents where you may have made mistakes or behaved inappropriately, and they might even imply that you are now on an equal level when it comes to bad behaviour. This can make you feel the need to defend yourself.
He or she tries to make you confuse and believe you’re the one who did something wrong.
It’s possible to forgive a partner who has ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛᴇᴅ, but it’s crucial to avoid being in a relationship with someone who not only manipulates and gaslights you but also fails to take responsibility and seek forgiveness.
