6 Real Reasons Why He Won’t Commit To You
1. He’s not financially stable
Traditional gender roles have cast the man as the breadwinner and provider of the family. So if your boyfriend is in a new job, has to pay alimony/child support or still not earning what he feels would be sufficient to support a family, he may be hesitant to propose marriage. If this is so, appreciate his concerns and explain that your joint incomes may be enough for you both to live on comfortably. Or perhaps you could agree to wait another year till your boyfriend feels more confident of taking on the financial responsibilities of a marriage.
2. He’s afraid of commitment
A lot of men think that when they get married, they’ll lose their freedom and be bogged down with unending responsibilities.
This can sound scary, restrictive, and burdensome to a man who loves having fun and being free to do whatever he likes.
If your man doesn’t want to commit even when he has a stable career, it could be because he’s a fun-loving free spirit who’s afraid of committing to one woman for the rest of his life.
3. You’re not the one he wants to settle down with
I know this hurts to admit or accept, but the reason he won’t commit might be ’cause he’s just not into you like that. He can’t imagine a future with you, but he likes you enough to keep around for the short term. If you aren’t the one for him, you can’t convince him that you are and it’s not fair for him to keep stringing you along. It’s best to call it quits.
4. There are Plenty of Fish in the Sea…and He’s a Fisherman
Although commitment can be a positive thing for most people, there are still certain negative aspects that turn some men away from going all in with a woman. For example, once a guy commits, he loses any potential opportunity to date other women. Some men, or shall we say immature boys want to keep their options open for as long as possible.
5. He Has Other Priorities
In that case, he might see an exclusive relationship as something that will prevent him from fulfilling his current life goals. A fulfilled life is not only about finding someone to love. Other areas of focus for a balanced life can include family, work, hobbies, friends, spirituality, and much more. Some guys find that one or more of these are simply more important at this time than a committed relationship, which keeps them from settling down temporarily or maybe even permanently. That’s actually a good thing to know in advance, before you get involved.
6. There is or was Someone Else
Some men are scared to commit because they have unresolved issues from the past. If he keeps talking about his ex, even if it’s with anger, don’t be surprised if he can’t commit to your relationship. He’s either still holding out hope to reconnect to a past love, or he’s too vengeful to commit to you.
We all have past relationship history. And the best place to put that relationship is where it belongs—in the past. Many women are afraid to date a widower because he may not be able to move on from his one true love. However, many widowers are ready to love again, and they can make the best partners. So, get to know each person you date to see if they are open to a relationship or still holding onto their past.
