If You Are Saying These 6 Phrases, You Are Secretly Sabotaging Your Husband’s Confidence
1. “I wish we could afford … “
Believe me, your husband wishes he could give you the whole world. You may not intend for this phrase to hurt, but men will oftentimes interpret this phrase as, “I wish you were a better provider.” That hurts.
2. “So-and-so can do it”
Comparing your husband to other men is never a good idea. Be careful to not use comparisons in your relationship.
Your husband wants to feel like he’s enough. Comparing your husband to other men in a negative way will destroy his confidence, making your man feel like you’d rather be with someone more capable than him.
3. “Are you sure about that?”
Second guessing your husband is a great way to start a fight. But I’m not advocating for you to completely submit yourself to the crazy ideas your husband sometimes suggests. However, for the trivial matters, try to take a step back and ask yourself if doubting him is worth the trouble.
Remember (and this goes for your husband too): It’s more important to love than to be right.
4. “You … “
This phrase is only dangerous when applied in a negative context. The danger here comes from inadvertently isolating, or cornering your man. You’re a team. If there’s a problem in your marriage it’s never just his problem (or vice versa). You’ve both got to deal with it. That’s the deal you made when you got hitched. Try working through conflicts in terms of we instead of you and I.
5. “You can’t do that”
Men love to fix things and feel useful, capable. There’s nothing that puts out a guy’s fire faster than to emasculate him by saying he’s not physically capable of getting a job done. If trying isn’t going to k!ll him, let him have a whack at whatever it is. Be encouraging. He wants you to be on his side.
6. “You always/never … “
We just talked about the you part of this phrase, but backing it up with an absolute, like always or never, is much worse. It’s a judgemental word that makes him feel like your opinion of him will never change.
