Recently, a mom on Reddit expressed a pretty controversial opinion in Am I the A–hole forum.
She explained that she is facing an issue with her husband and the child he had with his mistress. The wife shared that she doesn’t want her husband bringing his other child into their home. Surprisingly, many people online are supporting her and her feelings about the situation.
The wife shared that her husband had an affair while she was pregnant.
“My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant and had a baby with another woman,” the woman began. “I found out after the other child was born.”
“I have never been OK with this. It’s exactly the kind of trash I tried so hard to have NOT to be a part of my life.”
The pair are ‘legally and emotionally’ now separated following the infidelity, but they are still ‘currently living together’ as the woman was unable to file for a divorce in their US state.
The bloke apparently refused to move out of the home but, because he was frequently away travelling, it hadn’t really been an issue until recently.
The mum explained: “It’s been almost two years since then, and now he wants to bring that child into MY house.
“I guess he has some kind of schedule with the other child’s mother that includes visits and he wants that visitation to be in what is technically still his residence.”
“Absolutely NOT,” she added.
The woman declared she was not a ‘stepmother’ to any child, before adding: “Unlike in most of these situations, the house we’re living in is truly only mine.
“It’s under my parents’ names, but I got it when I got POA [power of attorney] and they had to go into a care home. I’m not having this kid in it.”
Interestingly enough, however, the woman’s own family suggested she just accept her ‘stepchild’ and even branded her a ‘witch’ for stopping the two siblings from having a relationship together.
The woman finished up, acknowledging: “I’m banning a child from coming to (technically) their father’s house and stay with him for any meaningful amount of time.”
Many Reddit users rushed in to share their support with the woman.
Here are some comments from the internet users:
“You don’t need to call the kid trash, but your point is valid.
“You have no obligation to bond with your husband’s affair child. You are legally separated and his obligation to his child has nothing to do with you.”
“Just try to keep your anger directed at the adults in the situation. The child has no control over anything.”
“Not your kid and not your responsibility! It’s your house!”
“You are not at all the a**hole,” assured a third. I was in a similar situation and still get p*ssed off 30 years later. Don’t let people tell you what to do or how to feel. It is your house. Tell the father to go someplace else.”
“His affair child isn’t your obligation.”
