If your partner routinely uses any of these phrases and you feel unsafe, unloved, unwanted, it is time to reassess your relationship
1. You’re: crazy/psycho/psychotic/mental/immature/pathetic/insecure.
2. You’re too emotional! Stop crying! You’re such a baby! Why are you always so sensitive?
3. Cut out all the drama/You’re such a drama queen!
4. You know what? I never loved you!
5. I love you, but I’m not in love with you.
6. I hate you! I can’t stand you!
7. It’s over! I’m done with you! I’ve had it with your little….
8. If you don’t …..I’ll leave you/hurt myself/k_ill myself/k_ill you/ take the children/clean out the bank account/burn down this home/ruin your reputation.
9. You’re so stupid! You’re such an idiot!
10. You don’t deserve someone like me.
11. I deserve better than you! I could easily find someone better than you! Maybe I should just find somebody else!
12. I’m not attracted to you. You’re not my type.
13. If you really loved me then you’d….
14. Shut up/ Shut the **ck up!
14. I wish I had never met/known you!
15. You made me do it! You make me act this way! It’s all your fault! Now look what you made me do! Who would could blame me for…?
16. Guess you can’t handle the truth?
17. No one likes you when you are……No one would put up with someone like you
18. Are you so hard done by? You’re such a victim aren’t you? You always play the victim!
19. B*tch, whore, loser…
20. I dare you to tell me I’m lying/wrong!
21. Let me see if I can phrase this in a way you’ll actually understand. I guess I’ll have to say it in simpler terms. You’re too dumb to understand.
22. Look at yourself- go on, look at yourself right now. Why don’t you look in the mirror for a change? Who else would want you?
23. If you… (lost the weight/changed your makeup/changed your hairstyle/got surgery/made more money/dressed better) then maybe I’d be more attracted to you.
24. If you leave you’ll never get a penny from me. I’ll kill you if you leave. I’ll take the children from you if you leave. If you leave me, you’ll regret it!
25. Why don’t you ever do anything about ….?
26. Why don’t you stop and think about me for a change?
27. Did you ask me first?
28. I thought you cared about me? Obviously not!
29. Get away from me! Stop touching me! You don’t deserve…(sex, love, affection, attention) until you….
30. Why don’t you grow up? Why don’t you grow some balls? Why do you always have to act like a baby?
31. You never listen- I already told you….
32. Well, wait until I tell people that you….
33. Why don’t you admit you’re wrong for once in your life
34. Tell me- have I ever laid a hand on you?! Huh? Have I? (Often this is said with a clenched fist)
35. If you’d act like an adult, I’d treat you like one!
36. Leave and get out of my face already! What part about leave me alone do you not understand?
