Reasons Why Iɴfidᴇlity Happens Even in Happy Relationships
1. Feeling neglected
Iɴfidᴇlity is more often than not traced back to feelings of loneliness. Loneliness often arises out of neglect, and can lead someone to feel overlooked and undervalued in their relationship. It’s important to recognize that neglect can look a lot of different ways. In happy relationships, you may assume that you are supporting your partner just by being around, but for many people this is not enough. Relationships require emotional support, and a lack of this can lead to feelings of neglect or feeling misunderstood in the relationship. When this happens, it is common for that person to seek external validation so that they feel less taken for granted. Having someone outside of their relationship pay attention and want them can make them feel less alone.
If you are feeling neglected in your relationship, it is important to air these feelings to your partner. Being honest about your needs and the attention you need from them can prevent these feelings of neglect in the first place, and can allow you to feel more supported in your relationship, so that you don’t feel the need to look for support outside of the relationship. Expressing these feelings can be difficult, but it is important to be honest with your partner and let them try and support you.
2. Nature of going against the ‘law‘
Some ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛᴇʀs say they feel like a teenager when they’re sneaking around and having stolen moments. It’s exciting and forbidden, and they get a kick out of breaking the rules. It’s like a 5-year-old sneaking a cookie that his mother said he couldn’t have. The forbidden cookie just tastes extra sweet. As an adult, side-dishing can feel like more of the same.
3. Searching for a new sense of self
For people who ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛ, side-dishing is an exploration of never experienced or long-repressed parts of the self. It is freedom from who they have been and currently are. Interestingly, they usually don’t want to change who they are; they simply want to escape those constraints for a short while — to feel young again, to explore and grow and experience life. When these individuals ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛ, they’re not looking for another person, they’re looking for themselves.
4. Experience new or exiled emotions
This is also considered a form of self-exploration. Dudes can be especially vulnerable to this, as they are often told, as they grow up, to repress and not express their emotions. Over time, they learn to “cowboy up” and not feel. Unfortunately, doing so they often stifle joy as well as sorrow, pleasure as well as pain. For these grandsons and daughters of Adam and Eve, ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ is more of an emotional release than a s,exual release. And once again, these ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛᴇʀs are exploring their inner self.
