Reasons Why Is It Very Difficult To Forget Your First Experience Of Falling In Love – Your First Love
1. Most of the feelings are new
Before falling in love for the first time, you must have had crushes on somebody or even lusted after a couple of people. Additionally, you must have liked someone so much you felt it was the real thing.
But when you really fall in love for the first time, it puts the other emotions in perspective. This is the first experience in differentiating between lust, crush, and fondness on one hand and being in love someone on the other.
That was the first time you come to understand that you can literally sacrifice your life for somebody else. The feelings are so strong they leave a lasting impression on your virgin heart.
2. It becomes the standard of future affairs
Comparing what we used to have with what we have now is inevitable. And because of the way the memory works, the past tends to trump the present. That is why you hear people talking about, ‘The good old days.’
First love is the same. With the benefit of hindsight and elapsed time, everything seemed better. Unconsciously, your subsequent affairs become an exercise in comparisons with that first love.
This can cause your current partner to be stressed if you don’t have the good sense to keep your thoughts to yourself. Because, everybody knows, it is easier to remember only the good memories of a past affair.
3. The first break up was off the scale
Most people’s first loves almost always end up in breakups. It is safe to say that most of us never knew the exquisite pains of a break up before our first love.
The pains, emotions, and hopelessness of that break up would never be felt to the same degree again. Nothing in our future life would compare to that.
This can be simply due to the fact that at the time of falling in love for the first time, you were inexperienced and naive. All the sacrifices and effort you poured into the affair were done with a false sense of the future.
For you, the love is going to last forever. The love was your destiny and nothing would snatch it away from you. Basically, it is the innocence of ignorance leading you down that rose-covered path.
Since your whole being was totally and utterly invested in loving, you would be completely devastated when the inevitable crash comes.
The extreme loneliness, misery, helplessness and dejection after the break up are feelings you never had before. You would not forget the experience in a hurry. As a matter of fact, you’d remember them for the rest of your life.
4. You will never again get that feeling of ‘first love’
The best part about first love is the butterflies you feel, the first touch that gives your body a current and so on. This new feeling is so beautiful that most of us want it to last. We will occasionally wonder what life would have been with them. What would it have been like with that person? We live our life thinking we will never get a similar, fairy-tale-like feeling ever again.
