The 7-year Itch – 6 Reasons Most Couples Consider Divorce in the 7th Year
What is the 7-year itch?
People with children were more likely to experience a dip in their marital happiness around the 4th and 7th year! The first dip was mainly due to the wear and tear of the “honeymoon phase,” while the second had more to do with the arrival of children, taking priority over working on the marital relationship and your needs.
So why might your relationship with your partner just falter around the 7th year of marriage in particular? Read on to find out some of the reasons why.
1. You give in due to the monotony of your days.
After a point, the monotony of the same old routine can get to you, which tends to take over the marriage due to the lack of a new or interesting way to channel your frustration.
2. Taking your partner for granted.
Remember how, at the beginning of your relationship, you would look for any opportunity to shower your partner with love and affection? Think now – when was the last time you made an effort to impress your partner or to make him happy? While taking it for granted shows that you are secure enough with your partner to do so, it can also show that you are unwilling to make efforts to make your marriage feel special.
3. Lack of love and affection
Spending quality time together, investing in each other emotionally, and showing affection are all ways to show your spouse that you see them and care about their emotional well-being. When that intimacy ceases, it sends a very different message.
4. Lack of communication
Do you know what is going on in their lives, at work or with their friends or the like? Do they know what’s going on in yours? Basically, are they living two different lives under one roof? If so, there’s a good chance you feel like you’re doing things alone and may feel lonely and bored.
5. You don’t have any common interests.
If you don’t even make the effort to try to take on at least one of each other’s interests, you are simply creating a bigger gap between you and your partner. While having alone time is a wonderful thing for both partners, it shouldn’t be that you are always looking to spend time alone and away from each other!
6. You both deal with life at different paces.
Especially at a point when you or your partner feel that you are stuck in a rut or that things are not really moving forward as expected, this point of view differs. This is probably why there is a lack of effort to revive the marriage, or why one may feel that things are fine while the other is panicking about how slowly things are progressing.
