If you’re wondering what makes a man fall in love here are 27 things men say women did that made them fall hard.
1. Asking questions to get to know him.
“When I started getting asked questions about myself or my opinions, I started getting excited.”
2. Focusing on the small things.
“When my wife and I started dating, I was working night shift. She was one of the only people who was understanding of my odd sleep schedule, she would do little things like buy me new earplugs so I could sleep better and invite me over to her place for ‘breakfast’ in the afternoon after I woke up.”
3. Treating other people well.
“Very early green flag is how she treated other people. I’m a stickler about the (sort of cliche) of being able to tell a lot about a person with how they treat someone that can do nothing for them.”
4. Knowing how to compromise.
“Her willingness to compromise over things (and of course, our relationship depends on me doing the same). There are things that I believe we each will not, and should not compromise on, and those may not be the same for each of us. I would never want her to compromise on something that goes against who she is.”
5. Accepting him as he is.
“She allowed me to be exactly who I was. No nagging, pestering or whining about what ‘I should be’, she simply enjoyed being with the person ‘I was’. There was no question about me needing alone time or time with my friends, she also craved a little time apart. Which meant she didn’t grill me about where I was going, who else was going to be there and demand that I check in by phone every hour or so. I know guys that put up with more monitoring by their girls than their parents ever did. I couldn’t be with someone who thought they owned me. And I treat her the same way. I could not wish for a better, more stable, more loving, more wonderful spouse.”
6. Knowing the right way to help.
“She dealt really well with disagreements and tiffs — she never pouted or held grudges, didn’t run off to mine sympathy from her friends (or worse, an orbiter) and didn’t weaponize things I’d said for later wheedling. We didn’t even argue much, she could just handle standing up for her own interests maturely and without drama. She did and still does find her own space, cool off and then talk about it calmly. I guess I do the same, so we work well in the regard, we try to actually listen to each other.”
7. Touching him without asking.
“Voluntary neck rubs/back rubs! Been in far too many relationships where they are treated as a his turn/her turn kind of deal. My current SO will come out of nowhere and start rubbing my shoulders if I look stressed or rub my neck on long drives.”
8. Being excited to try new things.
“If your partner is up for trying anything, then you got a winner. I’m not even talking about liking things, but at least willing to try new things. If every date is a constant battle of trying to figure out what to do, what eat, what to see, etc… then it’s going to be a pain in the ass later. If he or she is open to new things, then you both can learn and explore together. Also, that goes both ways, my fellow dudes!”
9. Making him laugh.
“My wife makes me laugh every day with her antics. finding a woman who doesn’t mind looking crazy for a joke is the best thing ever.”
10. Owning up to her mistakes.
“When you bring something up that she’s done that’s upset you and instead of her getting angry, she admits that she was wrong and apologizes. When couples have arguments it shouldn’t be a contest to prove who is right and who is wrong. It should be a conversation to solve the issue at hand. A lot of people just don’t want to be proven wrong or be made to feel like the bad one. But honestly, just admit when you’re wrong and apologize and things will get better a lot quicker and easier than having pointless shouting matches which create resentment for years to come.”
11. Not stressing him out.
“I never felt stressed out, there was no drama, there was no questioning whether I said the right thing or not, if I was going to get a text back or not, if I was going to get ghosted. Never felt pressured, always felt like I was being listened to and respected and understood. Appreciated and enjoyed spending time with me regardless of what we were doing. Comfortable being ourselves around each other.”
12. Initiating intimacy.
“Initiating occasionally. Many women seem to only want to wait for men to initiate but get annoyed when they always initiate … A woman who initiates herself occasionally can avoid all that.”
