Having regular conversations about important topics can not only bring you and your spouse closer together right now, it can help you create a better plan for your future together.
Below are what every married couple should talk about, seriously and openly. Do these subjects come up regularly in your own marriage? If they don’t- maybe it’s time they should!
1. Hopes and Dreams
One of the best things about being a couple is having someone to share your hopes and dreams with. When it’s a healthy marriage or relationship, each person feels free to be honest and share their dreams without restraint because the other person listens and encourages those hopes and dreams. When you get that little push, those dreams seem more possible. That makes you and your spouse or partner happier.
2. Finances
Even if you’ve never explicitly talked about money, you probably already have a vague idea of how much your partner makes and how he/she likes to spend a paycheck. Still, if there’s a possibility that you two might end up sharing a bank account or co-owning a house (or if you already are), it’s crucial to have a conversation about finances. Being married means you are a team and need to be on the same financial page, as this is a huge, contentious issue for many couples who divorce.
3. Talk about ѕєχ and bedroom stuff
Do you really have to talk about ѕєχ ? Why not just go for it and let it work itself out?
Sometimes couples aren’t happy with some aspect of their ѕєχυαℓ relationship, be it quality, quantity or technique. Keeping those thoughts and feelings to yourself is likely to wear at you and make you less happy.
Talking about ѕєχ is definitely something happy couples do. When they can understand each other outside of the bedroom, being together inside the bedroom is a more exciting prospect.
4. Family goals and parenting styles
Do you plan on having kids one day? When? And how many children would you like to have? How are you going to raise them? We all have different ideas of what a family looks like and what we want our family to look like. Have you discussed this with your husband? It is incredible how many young married couples there are who do not know if their other half wants 1 or 2 kids, or when they plan on starting a family. These are massive life events you absolutely must discuss.
5. Happy things
Many marriages fall apart for many different reasons. A lot of those reasons have to do with the standards and confrontation and honesty we talked about above. But, marriages can also fall apart even when it seems as though there is nothing structurally wrong at all. It seems so simple, but in the busy hustle bustle of the day, we can lose sight of not only our own needs, but also our spouse’s needs. Have a conversation about the things that truly make you happy and discover the same about your spouse. Whatever it is that makes your spouse feel joy and satisfaction should become a priority for both of you. This isn’t about only the things that you both enjoy, although those things are important, too.
6. Talk about your fears and anxieties
On the flip side is whatever scares you or makes you mad, which could be anything from deep emotions you’ve been carrying for years to little things that come up at work. Having someone to discuss these with can alleviate the burden. Take advantage of not being alone!
7. Memories
Whether it’s a conversation about your childhood or mentioning memories as they come up in daily life, sharing memories is something all happy couples do. Your past is a big part of what shaped you as a person, so it’s only natural that a spouse would want to relive it with you.
Eventually, you’ll create many of your own memories you can reflect on and share. Knowing you’ve built a great life together will increase your happiness.
