Some words that should be avoided while being intimate with your partner
1. You remind me of someone
You can have memory flashbacks, it’s okay but please, never tell your partner they remind you of someone while you both are being intimate. It is highly disrespectful and might k!ll the mood. Saying this simply means your mind is with someone else even though you are with them.
2. How’s the family?
Even if you loves a chit-chat, now is not the time to talk about their mum, whether the laundry needs doing or how that work meeting went. The right time to catch-up is not during s*x, it is disturbing asking those kinds of personal questions while you two are intimate. Just enjoy the moment and go personal when you are done.
3. You can if you want
What do YOU want? Being confident and clear in bed is always best. Never be afraid to ask for what you want and voice what you don’t want. If it’s something you’re enjoying, give it a hearty “oh yesss”, as if they’re fulfilling a life-long dream. However if it’s something you don’t want, make that clear. “Not tonight”, “why don’t we do this instead” or, “let us try something else” Just avoid indifference, no-one’s a mind-reader. Being indifferent shows you are probably not into what is happening and that might change the mood of things.
4. How many people have you been with
Catering to your s3xual health is important, however, not when the deed is happening. Asking about s3xual health is an absolute must with a new partner or even a recurring one. Have the STI discussion and lots more before s3x not during. It’s a sensitive issue that might not be ideal for mid-s3x.
