When Is It Better To End The Relationship And Look For Happiness Elsewhere?
The decision to break up is very difficult, but when a relationship becomes a source of suffering and intense inner tension, fear, and other negative emotions, breaking up may be for the best.
1. When indifference has settled permanently between you
Indifference destroys love and leaves no positive emotions – everything that connected you seems to have disappeared irretrievably…
Jealousy also poisons. A healthy dose of jealousy signals that partners still care and have feelings for each other and are afraid of losing each other.
If your jealousy has completely disappeared and you are completely indifferent to where your partner is, what he is doing and with whom – this is a signal that your relationship is going badly. If you cannot evoke feelings for your partner, you pass like strangers and communicate with each other. Then your love has been replaced by indifference.
Indifference can kill even the best relationship. Being insensitive to your partner is devastating. And the best solution will be to break up.
2. When a relationship has turned toxic
A healthy relationship should be based on mutual respect, equality and love – partners should support and show love to each other.
Signs of toxic relationship:
2.1 Physical abuse. This is the clearest signal that it is time to end the relationship. It is worth doing this for your own safety and for the sake of the children, who may become victims of abuse themselves.
2.2 Nequal treatment between partners. Humiliation does not have to be overt, it can be subtle but painful – undermining the value of the partner, disregarding his dignity, belittling his knowledge and achievements. This is not a sign of a healthy relationship.
2. 3 Provoked to insult the partner. If they are based on humiliation of one of the parties, this is also a signal that your relationship is not going as it should. These negatively affects the human psyche and self-esteem.
2.4 Overcontrol and painful jealousy. If a person wants to rule another person’s life, decide his free time, choice of friends, diet or any other aspect of his life, it means that the relationship is bad and the partner himself has wrong, harmful tendencies.
3. When loneliness is palpable, even though there are two of you
This feeling arises when one party tries to reach the partner, emotionally engages and tries to build a common space, and the other party is stuck behind an invisible wall and does not feel the need to tear it down – such a relationship is not based on solid foundations.
Loneliness in marriage is very painful. It can also affect married couples with many years of experience. It can also be related to feelings of indifference and the feeling that spouses are only related by habit or a sense of duty. Sometimes it makes sense to work on it and find each other again. But sometimes the loneliness gets so bad that breaking up is the best idea.
When to disconnect?
If the relationship is a source of pain, fear and suffering for you rather than a source of love and security, then it is time to end it. It is not always possible to save a relationship and it does not always make sense to save it. Sometimes you just have to save yourself.
